Originally Posted by russianrocket
So would it be better in a family where both parents work? Should eliminate empty neat syndrom
Well, no, I don't think so. To me empty nest syndrome is more about just being lonely and missing your kids who were a presence in your life so long. And worrying about them!!!
I'm not the real "mothering" kind who wants to do everything for her kids. Far from it, in fact! But I know I will struggle so badly when they leave
. And it's not because of my identity as a "mother" it's just that they won't be there for me to know how they're going, and if they're okay etc. etc.
And as for all that childcare stuff... my kids went to daycare, and it was great. I wouldn't expect grandparents to care for grandkids, simply because the retirement age is well over the age when most people become grandparents, and thus they simply aren't available to care for the kids while mum and dad go off to work! Many people now need to work until retirement so they can...well...retire! They need to build their nest egg etc. I'd never expect my mum to give up work to care for the grandkids (although at 67 she is retired now...she was only in her 50s when they were born).