Originally Posted by newmark
In societies where children live with their parents until they marry, they remain children for much longer. I teach at a university in Taiwan and the university students here are less mature and more dependent than students of the same age in Europe and North America.
I can totally understand that. I married at 18, lived with my mother until then. Very stupid decision on my part, although I can't say I regret it. I did get some college education, etc., but it hasn't been until the recent few years until I started realizing that I don't have to answer to anyone. I am an adult. I no longer have to hide things for fear of being scolded, etc., and I am 27 years old.
Basically I attribute this to living with my mother and then moving directly in with my husband, who is also kind of...well...read through some of my other posts and you might get the idea. I never really moved out of a situation where there was no "parent" to dictate what I did and did not do. I never got to make decisions solely on my own behalf and with my own judgement, or at least none that were important "life" decisions. Therefore, I've never exactly felt grown up and even now that I came to this realization, it's hard for me to really grasp because although I know what's going on, I don't exactly have the authority to practice it and it leaves me wanting to be on my own instead of tied down in order to at least live a little bit of my own life, made by my own decisions.
So yes, I can SOOO see how that is a problem as I've learned to recognize the same thing in myself.