[momo3bur]

Originally Posted by sk8joyful

Thank you for at least some kind words, towards me.

And thank you for all that you are doing, for your (abusive) Grandpa.
Tho I would NEVER accept such help; because -
1. I won't be a 'burden' on anyone.
2. I will never agree to live in an "institution".


It's very simple: After I discovered, in absolute horror, that her father was a pedophile, I filed for divorce immediately.
She was tiny still, and I took her to a SAFE place, & as I said above she in freedom & safety, got to experience & experiment with her other homeschooled peers, life's fun pleasures, and all the things we enjoyed... together.

After she graduated college as a teen, she married her Sweetie, & at age 20 she already ran her own Business, they had bought a brand new home, and she was expecting...
when
she sent me THE letter: "Mom, I'm sorry you got stuck with a lousy human, but I got a good one. And I want my kids to have both grandparents together. So unless you agree to become Good-friends with dad, you will NEVER get to see your grandkids, and should something happen to you, you can not come here, to recover. I love you mom, you are the best. And life is not fair.

Her 1st. child is now 3, and I have never seen them. And she moved all they way across the country.

Wow. I'm sorry I didn't see this earlier. By the time I checked the thread, there were tons of responses so I guess I missed this one.

I'm going to let my feelings take over in response to this and tell you I think this could have something to do with her husband. It sounds like the two of you were very close, and I'm not sure what all went on between you two, but if those are her words exactly, it just makes very little sense.

Obviously if her father is a pedophile, you would think there would be no reason she would want him around her own children. Is there some sort of serious prejudice she or her husband have against divorce and they don't want that influence brought to their childrens' attention? Are they very involved in a religion that would shun you for not being married to the father of your children?

This is just kind of weird, Sk8. No offense to you or your daughter intended whatsoever, but I kind of feel like there is something more to her case than what she wrote to you. Otherwise, it is just...unreasonable. And VERY unfair to you.

I'm so sorry you're being faced with this. It would kill my mother not to see her grandchildren.