Originally Posted by elucidate
I'm not going to speak for rr here, but I do wish to point out to you that he did not say you and his parents are the same...he said, if you read his words again, that he had the same guilt trip!
Where did he say he hated his parents exactly?
I saw only the mention of the insanity of the situation he was in...no mention of feeling hatred towards them. You have put words into his mouth and twisted the situation to make him look like he's horrible and full of hate.
This might be how he seems to you now, given that you are feeling hurt about your own situation, but I don't think that's the truth of the matter at all, but you aren't really looking at it from his point of view, or stepping into his shoes, and wanting us to do this with you.
You are 100% correct. No where did I say I hated my parents, or showed any type of hate for anyone.
I don't hate people. That's not me. I'm in a Jewish family. Guilt is just par for the course. Doesn't mean I hate my dad for it. I know completely, that he did his absolute best in raising me. If it didn't always work out the way I wanted to, it doesn't mean that HE was out to get me, or didn't do the best that he could. Getting so riled up at me ( not saying my post wasn't worthy of it) shows that she has things to work out on her own.
And again, you are correct. I didn't say my parents were the same as her. Just the guilt trip was exactly the same.