Originally Posted by sk8joyful
she sent me THE letter: "Mom, I'm sorry you got stuck with a lousy human, but I got a good one. And I want my kids to have both grandparents together. So unless you agree to become Good-friends with dad, you will NEVER get to see your grandkids, and should something happen to you, you can not come here, to recover. I love you mom, you are the best. And life is not fair.
I think your daughter definitely could have worded it a lot better than she did, if this is an accurate representation of what she did write...that would be AWFUL to be the one on the receiving end of that. It doesn't get much more of an emotional blackmail than that.
Her reasoning sounds pretty kooky too. I would think she'd not want him in the picture at all, instead of wanting him there just for posterity sake, so it looks like everything is happy family?
If it were me, I would not want my kids anywhere near a pedophile regardless of whether he's my father or not. It sounds like she is trying to have solid values, but is not really being reasonable or thinking rationally about her children's safety.
Has she received counselling from when her father did this to her?