Originally Posted by sk8joyful
I haven't participated here in a while, but this particular issue just galls
When I was a child, the 'adult's thinking was: Cant wait 'til she can take care of herself. - Then at age 13 I was sent to the USA, where at only age 15 I was forced by mom to work FULL-time, while just starting hi-school (& for the only time in school, I started failing because I was comatose during school hours, because of working daily from 1500-2340. <- That is child-abuse on so many levels.
the very daughter, who I protected (from being by the AMA aborted), and who I lovingly nurtured & raised, & homeschooled on sheer FUN, so she could graduate from college with honors while only 17, - when she got married, she said to me: "Mom should anything ever happen to you, you can't come here to recover. Sorry."
So, because of medical malpractice I have needed a place where in fact I can recover. I can't even begin to describe, what it feels like to be abandoned
, no less by the very people who you gave your life for, to protect.
Well, this is just another post to explain why I don't much come here anymore, aside the fact that most people don't bother responding, at the same time that I have positively encouraged so many here.
Oh well, carry on!
That sounds pretty rough all right. I know the feeling of being abandoned, and it's not pleasant.
It doesn't mean that the people here who have 'abandoned' their parents were nurtured and cared for in the same way as it sounds like you cared for your daughter. It also doesn't mean that a person cannot be nurturing and caring and ALSO be totally toxic. I'm not saying that's the case for you here, so I mean no offense. My mother cared and nurtured us all as kids...and she is totally toxic. It's for my own self-preservation that I stay away from her.
What you said at the end though sounds like what a lot of parents use to manipulate their kids...the whole "I gave up my life for you and now look at how you repay me" argument is manipulative. Having kids was the choice of the parent, and it's not fair to then put the whammy on them later in life so they feel obligated.
Even the way you left your post sounded manipulative..."oh well, carry on" as though we are supposed to feel guilty for you not feeling like you want to stay here. It's like you want us all to feel bad and feel sorry for you. What's up with that?
As horrible as it sounds from your perspective, and as much as I can empathize with you, it doesn't mean that your situation is the same as other peoples, so why would you choose to not come back to this forum because other people express their own perspectives on the way they were treated at home? Why would that affect you, given that you have no inside knowledge of what went on in their homes? I'm not meaning for that to sound interrogative, but it got me wondering...
Some parents are genuinely horrific towards their kids. Staying around said parents would therefore be the absolute worst thing to do wouldn't it?