Completely agreed, RR. I think the issue is more about adults who continue to live with their parents without pursuing their own independent, totally self-reliant lives, which is fine if both parties are ok with it, but (in "American" culture...I'm not going to say Western because I know there are still many places where it's not unusual to have an adult move away from home until he/she is married) may be viewed as having a lack of motivation, ambition, and basically taking advantage of family. That might not actually be the case, but it does seem to be the judgement most other American adults will apply to individuals who do practice this.
It doesn't really apply to adults who have their own lives, own marriages, jobs, etc., yet tote their parents along in order to care for them. There is absolutely nothing adolescent about that whatsoever.
I don't think having your parents live with you constantly happens a whole lot in North America, but something that is very common is for an adult to move away, start their own life and family, and then move their parents back in with them when the parents are older and need assistance. That scenario is actually very common, at least around the area I live. Many houses around here, including mine, are built with an onsite or connected "mother-in-law" suite that will having living quarters, kitchen, bath, bedroom(s) so that the parent(s) can live with the adult child but still care for themselves as much as they can so THEY (the parents) don't lose their sense of independence.
Last edited by momo3bur; 10-16-2011 at 03:07 AM.