Originally Posted by elucidate
Maybe because it's not considered such an abominable offense that can lead to you being ostracized from your whole community if you dare abandon your parents, as with many asian countries.
People are expected to just put up with heinous abuse and then turn around and look after their abusers as one more giant kick in the face.
Co-dependency and a sense of deprivation which leads to extreme insecurity is what causes a person to become so incredibly toxic to their family that they have no other option than to abandon them entirely, unless they want to sacrifice their own sanity to appear like a "good son/daughter" to the rest of the family and community.
I'm not american, but I will say that if someone can recognize that their family members are making them crazy and behaving in unhealthy ways that use guilt and fear to control them, then they are probably NOT the toxic ones. Usually the ones behaving this way don't even know they are doing it and have no idea of the pain they are causing, and deny being the one in need of a mental health review.
When I told my family in Isreal/Russia that I moved out, 15 miles away, they went crazy. How could I do such a thing to my family. WHy would I MOVE AWAY!?!?!
As far as his last question. What he was trying to imply, is that if parents and grand parents in America are toxic, and the fact that eventually WE will be parents or grand parents, does that also mean that WE are toxic.