Originally Posted by Cado
You balk at the idea of family causing children to develop mental problems and such-well, at least when it comes to my father's side of the family, they can go %^&$ themselves. If my grandfather had another heart attack I wouldn't go visit him, and it's very likely that if one or both of my grandparents die I won't even be informed.
That's how I want it. They're utterly toxic to everyone in their sphere and the world will be better off without them. That was true for my father, and while I consider that a tragic turn the fact is his death was probably the best thing that could have happened to me. Under him I had no right to exist, and if that's what strong family bonds mean in my case then I'll redefine family and seek it elsewhere.
I had the same thing with my grandmother, who lived with us. Drove my dad and step mom and me insane. Which causes my step mom to drive me and my dad insane. Just a big ball of insane . Sadly, everyone was better of when she died. She was toxic. My step mom was toxic. My life finally changed when I moved out. What finally snapped my dad out of it, was his heart attack last year.