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MadHyeNa · 08-12-2007, 06:05 PM

It's all within your mind. Eliminate negativity, jsot. Replace your mental pictures with positive ones, reinforce them, and slowly you will overcome your preconditioned mental patterns.

You state that you aren't great at flirting yet. Therefore, you aren't aware of the flirting signs and clues that women give away to hint if there's any sort of attraction or interest present. You simply aren't laid back, relaxed and detached enough to pay attention to the details. Oh, and by the way, this very statement about "not being great at flirting yet" reinforces your limitations and insecurities. There's nothing good in doing harm to yourself.

I can imagine how your mind wonders and tries to predict every possible scenario and replies that may or may not be engaged. Ultimately, you are focusing too much on what you shouldn't, reinforcing your insecurities, ultimately wasting and spreading your precious energies via unworthwhile means. Furthermore, you cannot be an observer of the whole scenario to gain a higher perspective and your conscious mind basically "ignores" even the possible cues that she is hinting, flirting toward you.

There is no such thing as false hope. A hope is just a hope, that is. Your thought process might be more than likely wishful thinking but that's not bad. What you want to acquire is positive but realistic thinking, having complete faith and belief in your abilities to achieve the impossible. Then and only then false hope disappears, wishful thinking turns into goals with deadlines that are backed up by strong plans and strategies.

Why get over here? If you are looking just for a random girlfriend or getting experience then by all means play the number games. Try, try, try. The experience that you'd gain will pay off later on throughout your life. But if you still want her --to be honest, you should never, never, never give up-- then there's no reason to get over her. In this thread we've given you a few dozen of valuable ideas and tips, go and apply them. Get in touch with her, and don't ever let your dreams get ruined.

Best of luck.

08-12-2007, 06:05 PM	#18 (permalink)
MadHyeNa Member Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Europe Posts: 40	It's all within your mind. Eliminate negativity, jsot. Replace your mental pictures with positive ones, reinforce them, and slowly you will overcome your preconditioned mental patterns. You state that you aren't great at flirting yet. Therefore, you aren't aware of the flirting signs and clues that women give away to hint if there's any sort of attraction or interest present. You simply aren't laid back, relaxed and detached enough to pay attention to the details. Oh, and by the way, this very statement about "not being great at flirting yet" reinforces your limitations and insecurities. There's nothing good in doing harm to yourself. I can imagine how your mind wonders and tries to predict every possible scenario and replies that may or may not be engaged. Ultimately, you are focusing too much on what you shouldn't, reinforcing your insecurities, ultimately wasting and spreading your precious energies via unworthwhile means. Furthermore, you cannot be an observer of the whole scenario to gain a higher perspective and your conscious mind basically "ignores" even the possible cues that she is hinting, flirting toward you. There is no such thing as false hope. A hope is just a hope, that is. Your thought process might be more than likely wishful thinking but that's not bad. What you want to acquire is positive but realistic thinking, having complete faith and belief in your abilities to achieve the impossible. Then and only then false hope disappears, wishful thinking turns into goals with deadlines that are backed up by strong plans and strategies. Why get over here? If you are looking just for a random girlfriend or getting experience then by all means play the number games. Try, try, try. The experience that you'd gain will pay off later on throughout your life. But if you still want her --to be honest, you should never, never, never give up-- then there's no reason to get over her. In this thread we've given you a few dozen of valuable ideas and tips, go and apply them. Get in touch with her, and don't ever let your dreams get ruined. Best of luck. __________________ “Once you incorporate the millionaire's mindset, set goals, chase your dreams with a burning desire and get motivated on a daily basis, success becomes inevitable.” by me. Last edited by MadHyeNa; 08-12-2007 at 06:07 PM.