Mmmm, I look at it in terms of people who add kink to their sex, and people who add sex to their kink. I occasionally add sex to my kink, and need a partner with the same mindset. Luckily I live in a city with a pretty good gay kink community, so I really only ever get involved with people I've met through that community.
So yeah, if it's a deal breaker for you, find the right community and look there?
