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Alarin · 11-14-2006, 01:32 PM

My sympathies for your situation Amunti! My advice would be to go see a good doctor as soon as possible and get help with your depression. I suspect that if you try and just soldier on at this particular time in your life, while also dealing with depression, you may do yourself more harm than good. Until about 2 years ago I also had depression and one of the most important things I learnt was in a crisis deal with the depression then deal with everything else, because you just can't function properly and do things like start a new job when your mind is trying to drag you down.

A good doctor will be able to help you with treatment and recommend the next step to take in your current situation.

I also agree with Andrew, if you have supportive family now would be a good time to spend some time with them, or if that's not an option find places in your local community where you can stay temporarily. A church could also be an option, you could make new friends there if nothing else and a pastor might be able to put you in touch with somewhere you can stay. I would say now is not the time to be alone if possible, you need support to help you get through a difficult time, don't try and take it all on yourself.

In your situation I personally would...

- See a good doctor and deal with the depression first, also ask the doctor if they know of any immediate places to stay as the surgery is probably in touch with community / social services.

- Find a new place to stay, whether it's with family or at a youth hostel or hotel. I'd try and find a place with people around, don't let yourself sit alone all day as that could make your depression worse.

- Continue your search for a job and take part-time work if you can find it, but can't find full-time work you enjoy. It might be better to just earn enough to keep yourself afloat at this stage until you've permanently sorted out your living situation.

- Find somewhere new to hang out, my personal choice would be a good local church or maybe Toastmasters or something similarly positive, you want to surround yourself with positive and caring people as much as possible.

- Most importantly stay positive and just take one day at a time. You can definately get through this if you take care not to let it overwhelm you.

There was a good post about depression on this forum recently which may help you when considering treatment - Depression

There's another post here although I haven't read this one yet - Overcoming depression

I also highly recommend "The Learning Path" for beginning to deal with depression, this is a free resource which you can read a bit of and act on each day.

And of course Steve's website is a fantastic resource in and of itself, you'll find lots of positive and inspirational articles there which can help you. You may simply be at the end of one journey and about to begin another, your current situation may turn out to be more of an opportunity than it is a disaster, even though it seems like a disaster right now, I've certainly had that kind of turnaround happen to me before.

I hope that helps. My best wishes and thoughts for your situation. Let us know how you go ok??

11-14-2006, 01:32 PM	#4 (permalink)
Alarin Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Posts: 49	My sympathies for your situation Amunti! My advice would be to go see a good doctor as soon as possible and get help with your depression. I suspect that if you try and just soldier on at this particular time in your life, while also dealing with depression, you may do yourself more harm than good. Until about 2 years ago I also had depression and one of the most important things I learnt was in a crisis deal with the depression then deal with everything else, because you just can't function properly and do things like start a new job when your mind is trying to drag you down. A good doctor will be able to help you with treatment and recommend the next step to take in your current situation. I also agree with Andrew, if you have supportive family now would be a good time to spend some time with them, or if that's not an option find places in your local community where you can stay temporarily. A church could also be an option, you could make new friends there if nothing else and a pastor might be able to put you in touch with somewhere you can stay. I would say now is not the time to be alone if possible, you need support to help you get through a difficult time, don't try and take it all on yourself. In your situation I personally would... - See a good doctor and deal with the depression first, also ask the doctor if they know of any immediate places to stay as the surgery is probably in touch with community / social services. - Find a new place to stay, whether it's with family or at a youth hostel or hotel. I'd try and find a place with people around, don't let yourself sit alone all day as that could make your depression worse. - Continue your search for a job and take part-time work if you can find it, but can't find full-time work you enjoy. It might be better to just earn enough to keep yourself afloat at this stage until you've permanently sorted out your living situation. - Find somewhere new to hang out, my personal choice would be a good local church or maybe Toastmasters or something similarly positive, you want to surround yourself with positive and caring people as much as possible. - Most importantly stay positive and just take one day at a time. You can definately get through this if you take care not to let it overwhelm you. There was a good post about depression on this forum recently which may help you when considering treatment - Depression There's another post here although I haven't read this one yet - Overcoming depression I also highly recommend "The Learning Path" for beginning to deal with depression, this is a free resource which you can read a bit of and act on each day. And of course Steve's website is a fantastic resource in and of itself, you'll find lots of positive and inspirational articles there which can help you. You may simply be at the end of one journey and about to begin another, your current situation may turn out to be more of an opportunity than it is a disaster, even though it seems like a disaster right now, I've certainly had that kind of turnaround happen to me before. I hope that helps. My best wishes and thoughts for your situation. Let us know how you go ok??