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MM19 · 08-12-2007, 12:58 AM

Just thought of one more thing! I did tell him - on the 7th - that we should not speak for a while. He was quite upset at first. Told me he thought we had been doing well and were very helpful with each other lately. I just told him - you asked to "be alone" for a while (back in June, when it first broke off), and I have not been giving that to you. So, now I am. This is not helpful for either of us.

Did I mention this came on the heels of him announcing to me (because we had been spending almost everyday together for over a week - cuddling, talking, etc.) that he was going to Boston for 5 days (the next day) and didn't want me to worry if he wasn't home or wasn't calling me back. Then, he proceeded to tell me it was a "first date" trip with a woman (a professor), who was paying for the trip, and they were going to Martha's Vineyard together. But, he couldn't understand why that would upset me?!? It was, afterall ONLY a first date, and he was not going to have a relationship with her! UGH. Men. Also, mentioned, if he were to have a relationship, it would have been with me. Couldn't understand why I thought this was so serious. Seriously!

08-12-2007, 12:58 AM	#15 (permalink)
MM19 Member Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: Iowa Posts: 42	Ahhh! Just thought of one more thing! I did tell him - on the 7th - that we should not speak for a while. He was quite upset at first. Told me he thought we had been doing well and were very helpful with each other lately. I just told him - you asked to "be alone" for a while (back in June, when it first broke off), and I have not been giving that to you. So, now I am. This is not helpful for either of us. Did I mention this came on the heels of him announcing to me (because we had been spending almost everyday together for over a week - cuddling, talking, etc.) that he was going to Boston for 5 days (the next day) and didn't want me to worry if he wasn't home or wasn't calling me back. Then, he proceeded to tell me it was a "first date" trip with a woman (a professor), who was paying for the trip, and they were going to Martha's Vineyard together. But, he couldn't understand why that would upset me?!? It was, afterall ONLY a first date, and he was not going to have a relationship with her! UGH. Men. Also, mentioned, if he were to have a relationship, it would have been with me. Couldn't understand why I thought this was so serious. Seriously!