Originally Posted by aelle
In the West, yes, because by default the older generations are always caregivers to the younger ones. So staying with your mom is about not growing up and not learning to care for yourself.
If culturally the young generation is seen as a caregiver to the older one, it might actually be the adult, responsible thing to do.
I can see how it would work for families that depend on the children being the caregiver. If they accept that as their given role without complaint.
That's something I struggle with. I absolutely see it as unhealthy when a mother's opinion comes before the spouse's, or when parents meddle in their children's marriages, etc. That's something that would be a dealbreaker in my relationship. |
But I can see how a culture where blood ties are strongest would see it as positive to maintain a good relationship with your parents, for as long as they live, even if at the expense of your marriage. I can't see how either world view is superior to the other.
Yeah, I don't think either one can be viewed as superior, it's just the way it is in different cultures, and neither one could understand how the other can do what they do because it's the norm for them.