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Originally Posted by elucidate  Past a certain point, if kids haven't left the nest and gone out into the world, arrested development sets in. |
In the West, yes, because by default the older generations are always caregivers to the younger ones. So staying with your mom is about not growing up and not learning to care for yourself.
If culturally the young generation is seen as a caregiver to the older one, it might actually be the adult, responsible thing to do.
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Originally Posted by elucidate It also sets up an unhealthy dynamic in the family in my opinion. |
That's something I struggle with. I absolutely see it as unhealthy when a mother's opinion comes before the spouse's, or when parents meddle in their children's marriages, etc. That's something that would be a dealbreaker in my relationship.
But I can see how a culture where blood ties are strongest would see it as positive to maintain a good relationship with your parents, for as long as they live, even if at the expense of your marriage. I can't see how either world view is superior to the other.