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Originally Posted by realignedliving  Influence by your mother...
That's been debunked and disproved for decades. |
The mother, just as well as his father, plays a major role in a child's
programming and conditioning during the growing up time. The first few years, especially 0-8 are crucial. The patterns that are developed and reinforced during that time are very hard to overcome and/or replace them. Also, that's when the child's personality and character is formed. Therefore, you cannot say that the parents do
not play a role in the development and programming of their childs, even though, this happens mostly in an unconscious manner.
That being said, motivations to get a girlfriend beside sex? One word: affection. I am not a believer of love at first sight because that's attraction, and I am know the process how love happens, gets initiated and ultimately why and how it feels the way it feels, therefore, I am conscious of its whole process. Furthermore, in my opinion, affection is
the emotion that makes the world and merry-go-round.
I think that you do not know or haven't had the chance to differentiate these emotions. You have pretty much experienced lust and desire. Sexual desire, getting the turn-on, everything that you mentioned but that is temporary. Think of it like what would happen
after. Sex is temporary ecstasy. Huge dosage of dopamine release and other feel good hormones. Achieving orgasm and it's all over. Is that all, you ask? Definitely no. The act of being together, the very act of spending the night together has the underlying "affection" and that's what really matter.
Having a woman around to share the beauties and passions of life; experience together the rollercoaster of emotions; to have a girl around when you need somebody to back you up, motivate and help you striving through the obstacles during your endeavors; growing together, truly enjoying life, and having a woman around to
share your joy and success with. All of these are by far more valuable than sex. High class sex can be bought on a frequent basis. But you cannot buy affection, respect and admiration.
With whom would you share your success and wealth when you are a multi-millionaire; beautiful condo on the Hollywood beach, South Florida; enough diversified assets that you need not to worry or work anymore for the rest of your lifestyle. You could have dozens of girls around you on a daily basis to get away of your grumpy loneliness. Does it brings true satisfaction and genuine fulfillment? Hardly.
That's not what life is all about. You must have somebody around to share the ultimate success and joyness that life has to offer. Complete each other, expand the boundaries of the two of you, merging and becoming
one person. Getting through the positive and not-so-positive times, always looking at the bright side of the life, and knowing that you have a girl that would live in a box down the river just to be
with you. Is that enough for you? Is it because of sex? We are social species. We need affection. Period.