Originally Posted by Acting Like Godot
That's American culture again.
In Asia, it's common for the old folks to like the idea of at least one of their adult children to stay with them. Not only that, for the adult's spouse, and their little kids, to stay there too. So that the old folks can see their grandkids and look after them every day.
I'm European. My dad never moved out from his mom. She lived with us till she was 92. I lived with him till I was 23 and escaped. I probably wouldn't have minded as much if it wasn't for my emotionally unstable step mom. Brothers moved out at 30 and 34. One, only because he was getting married, and the other because was the oldest and didn't feel right. I moved out a few years later. My dad would have kept me around for another decade if he could. It's probably more of a control thing tho. Wanting to guide us through life, because if we fail, they fail.
America has an unhealthy obsession with moving out and the rest of the world has an unhealthy obsession with staying around. Again, I think it comes down to control. American parents either can't control their kids anymore, so guilt won't work. Or, they feel that the only way for them to learn, is to be on their own. I think Americans are less likely to fall for the " if they fail, it's our fault" line of thinking.