[pianoperformer]

I realized that we don't need anything to be happy. Happiness is a choice in every moment. It's one of those things you don't really understand fully until you just, understand it.

I don't have to worry whether I'm going to be happy in the next moment. I can just be happy now, or not. If I'm not, then I can figure out why that is. It's very freeing.

Last night, Christine and I had a bit of an argument. I felt very threatened by her delivery, because she is very direct. So I separated myself for a minute, and did The Work. I wrote:

I am angry at Christine because she is always rash.
I am angry at Christine because she refuses to accept responsibility for her actions.

I asked the four questions of course. The turnaround is generally where i get the most insight, and frees me to see the possibility of not holding those beliefs. So the turnaround for the first one was:

I am angry with myself because I am always rash with Christine.

It was hard to say, but it was true. And the second was worse:

I am angry with myself because i never take responsibility.

That destroyed the thought in my mind, or at least stripped it of its emotionality, and I was able to go and apologize. It was amazing how quickly that turned around, and it felt so good not to have to think those thoughts.