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Originally Posted by elainevdw  From a personal development sense, he may not even be aware of the situation he's in. You could always try creative ways to mirror his situation to him, enabling him to really "see" what's happening, that he may be blinding himself to (or too close in proximity to see clearly).
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Hi Elaine, that's a good piece of advice. Mirroring really does give the person displaying those unwanted traits a shock. It's like giving them a rude wake up call.
Alvin, could your friend also be indulging in his girlfriend's independence too much? I may not be right, but I feel that someone can only become too dependant on another if they are given this chance to. Perhaps there are some secondary benefits he derives by being the main and sole provider for all her needs.
So if he can slowly get the girl to do things herself slowly, then he would have changed the dynamics and nature of the relationship. It's healthier, whether he wants out or not. What do you think?