Originally Posted by Harmonium
The judgement may be cultural, but I think the value of caring/providing for yourself is universal.
You see, in some other cultures, this value is taken one step further. Eg many Asian adults will stay with their parents, to care and provide for them, in their old age.
In American culture, the focus is on whether you are caring and providing for yourself, or not.
In other cultures, the focus is whether you are caring and providing for yourself AND OTHERS (including your aged parents) .... Or not.