I'm a woman and I have sometimes wondered whether just getting it out of your system with the person involved and then moving on isn't the best option?
I've experienced the same frustration you seem to be experiencing...and wondered if guys have it right after all. They seem to just have a punch up and get it out of their system, then head on down to the pub and buy each other a beer and forget about it...usually end up good friends after that.
I don't know...but feeling that way for not acting out violently isn't pleasant either.
I don't condone violence by the way, and I have never been in a physical fight before either, but sometimes it seems like it's more of a release for some people than anything serious anyway. Sure, there are better ways to achieve that release, like exercise etc...but it still leaves the person with that feeling you mentioned.
It does sound like you are associating "manliness" with fighting though, which may be from culturally instilled messages you've been fed your whole life?
Last edited by elucidate; 10-01-2011 at 05:25 PM.
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