I more or less agree with this. I also think this applies to the criminal justice system. However, unless we have a practical system through which to live these values, our words don't really amount to much. I think the logistics of actually balancing the needs and concerns of victims and bullies is where our values get lost in the system.
In my own experience, the education system tends to favour the concerns of victims and their families at the consequence of the bully. I can't say that this is absolutely a bad thing as their perspective is legitimate in a way. But then whose role should it be to rehabilitate bullies?
Originally Posted by ssandra
I think you are right.
Any approach that is successful on the bully problem will have to tackle the problem from both ends. First, the victims need to learn how not to be victims any more. (that is not to say that it is their fault, but there are things that they can change to make themselves less likely a target. Such as a healthy self esteem, ways you walk and talk, etc).
And second, the bully. The bully is getting something from bullying, and if you can teach them to get that something in a way that is healthy for everybody (including them) it will help them stop bullying.