Originally Posted by Marth
Well from a different perspective, I WAS THE BULLY in school. I don't really understand why you would let experiences from your teen years still bother you and traumatize you.
The pain accumulated in those times still exists in the pain body, which is in the bodies cellular memory.
Usually it is hard for people to let go and heal because the bullies carry on as though they don't know what they've done and never apologize and sincerely mean it...which would be very helpful towards the process of healing for the person.
Bullies, by their nature, don't think about other peoples feelings, If they did, they wouldn't bully.
Just think how many people you bullied that you haven't thought twice about since school who may still harbor great resentments against you even to this day. It's not because they want to be feeling this way or are letting themselves feel the pain, it's because you never acknowledged how much your actions hurt them, so they haven't been able to move on from that very easily.
It can be done without that acknowledgement, but it's definitely not an easy thing.