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Originally Posted by rikun  I might also have a slight cause of social phobia, which of course could be a reason for all this. |
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Originally Posted by rikun I like exciting personalities, someone with a wild side who gets excited easily and doesn't take life too seriously. In another words, somebody who's a bit like me  I just have hard time finding anyone who even comes close.
You know, you just click with somebody and you know it the moment you meet them. I'd like to improve my clicking rate, currently I've maybe met less than ten persons who've I've clicked with in 25 years. It feels low to me.
Maybe the solution is apparent, I just need to meet more people and improve my odds. |
That last line is on the money, but the previous statements also point out one possibility (which others also mentioned); maybe you're not giving people enough of a chance... Could you be dismissing people as "lame" or "normal" when they're just a little socially phobic too? I've known a few people who opened up immediately, but I've also known people who took some time to warm up, only because that's how they are with everyone. Yet after hanging out for a while we did click and our interactions were fun and engaging. There are plenty of worthwhile people out there who you
won't click with immediately.
On the flip side I've met people who I clicked with instantly, talked for ages with, then had nothing to do with for a few months or more.