[Allislove123]

My boyfriend and I have been together for 1 year. I'm in my mid-twenties and he's in his early 30s. He used to be crazy about me. After 5 or 6 months he told me that he loves me (he doesn't say it much though). He has been there for me through so much.

He doesn't want to move forward in the relationship though because he thinks I need to be more confident in myself. He says that he can't be the only thing in my life that makes me happy (which is true - he is the only thing that makes me happy).

I have read so many books about how to be happy and about how to have a good relationship. I try. I find myself feeling though like I'll never be good enough for him. I feel like his reason not to move forward might be just an excuse, and he'll never really love me or want to be with me.

He's extremely independent and I find myself always wanting more from him. I don't know if I should just pretend to be happy all the time and get busy (with the hopes that he does really love me and is really just waiting for me to be more confident) or if I should move on because he's not accepting me the way I am.

We recently said that we are both just plodding along hoping that things get better. I told him that I don't feel like he's crazy about me or in love with me and he didn't deny it. I feel so sad. He is so wonderful and I don't want to lose him but this is so hard and I don't know if I can do it anymore.

Please help. I worry that this is going to drive me crazy.