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songwriter · 08-10-2007, 01:35 AM

It's me again. :-) You have hitted my weakest point and I'm not going to give up.

"2. When you find someone new measure him or her against your list"

Definitely the hardest thing for me is to know the traits on someone new, so get motivated to "go for her". Maybe I have gotten so binary... "Is she open-minded?" like waiting for a yes or a no, instead of just measuring up to what's average or so.
I already know what I want but when meeting someone knew even if she has a superb quality I think I'll only notice she's "above average" in that trait. Like if she has a quality I don't like at all, I'll probably only notice at the beginning, she's below average in that.

So maybe the approach of measuring against the "normal", most usual behaviour in people could work for me, and others with similar problems than mine.

Let's see if she has more at least a 5 in every trait. That's somewhat easy to see, if there's a 9 or 10 it will show up with time.

08-10-2007, 01:35 AM	#65 (permalink)
songwriter Family Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Posts: 1,123	It's me again. :-) You have hitted my weakest point and I'm not going to give up. "2. When you find someone new measure him or her against your list" Definitely the hardest thing for me is to know the traits on someone new, so get motivated to "go for her". Maybe I have gotten so binary... "Is she open-minded?" like waiting for a yes or a no, instead of just measuring up to what's average or so. I already know what I want but when meeting someone knew even if she has a superb quality I think I'll only notice she's "above average" in that trait. Like if she has a quality I don't like at all, I'll probably only notice at the beginning, she's below average in that. So maybe the approach of measuring against the "normal", most usual behaviour in people could work for me, and others with similar problems than mine. Let's see if she has more at least a 5 in every trait. That's somewhat easy to see, if there's a 9 or 10 it will show up with time.