Don't get so down on yourself nobody ask to come here looking the way we do. We have many options to change our appearance. Sometimes it is not an outer thing but an inner thing. Beauty comes from within. You should try to love yourself more. This will help offset some of the negative comments from others.
Who cares what rude guys have to say? If they are that negative to call you ugly to your face then why feel the need to impress them? They are nobody. At least they should be to you. No matter how ugly you may think you are there is always a guy out there who will be willing to love you. Just continue to find the real you. The Real You! Not a false sense of yourself you created to feel pretty or fit in. Once you find out what you care most about and what you truly feel about yourself you will get through it.
To learn how to find that deeper aspect of yourself you have to learn to quiet the constant negative chatter that goes on in your head due to the treatment you have received over time. This may be the most difficult part of it all. You have to learn how to let go of the negativity that you feel towards yourself.
You can do this by:
.meditation- this will help you quiet that constant chatter that always goes on in your head. It will take some time but stick with it it will pay off. All you have to do is sit quiet somewhere without being disturbed. Close yours eyes if you feel comfortable and just breathe in deep through your nose and slowly exhale. Relax your whole body and just sit there and try not to think about anything. Thoughts will come but just let them don't try to pay attention nor try to ignore them just let them drift off as they come. Do this for 15 minutes everyday for 3 months. If you miss a day don't worry just pick up where you left off.
.When you look in the mirror every day say to yourself, "I Love You"!
Say it everyday with excitement!!! be exicted about it. If you have to scream it just to feel it deep down inside you then scream it to the top of your lungs.
.Affirmations will help you overcome the self-defeat mindset. When you hear a subliminal thought pattern over and over it will help affirm the belief and you will begin to take notice of the changes you will be making towards over coming your problems.
.Self Affirmations is a good way to deal with low self-esteem. I think brain wave technology and affirmation software are the new self-development tools that will help people create a new mind state quicker in the individual.
Instead of chanting it over and over to yourself you have the affirmation fed to you via your computer and since you are on your computer that affirmation is flashing in your in your eyesite and being picked up by the brain quicker. This helps speed up the affirmation's effect on the sub-conciousness. This effect then causes you to become a whole new self-guided person!
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I hope I helped in some way If I have come back and let me know. I would love to hear your success story and how you overcame your problems.