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Originally Posted by momo313  I believe I'm in a similar situation to you. Could you expand on what you learnt about relationships and their relation to career choice? |
Of the three core principles of personal growth (truth, love, and power), the one that I'm most naturally strongest in is truth. I don't need to "try" to see clearly in a situation, I just do, without particular effort on my part.
Love on the other hand -- connection and relationships with other people -- is for me rather hit or miss, largely dependent on my environment instead of something I actively create (if I'm not paying conscious, deliberate attention). I'll find myself in one situation and look around and see friends and colleagues, and then I'll find myself in another situation and look around mournfully, noticing that I'm alone.
So I was putting together a plan for the steps for this new project I was contemplating, that would begin a shift in this new career direction I was thinking about. The steps were all about my doing things by myself: first I would read this book, and then I'd write this web application, and so on. In my current career situation I'm working in a team with other people, so in my original conception of the plan there would be a shift in working with other people to working alone.
Working alone part of the time might not be a problem if I had strong community of friends and personal relationships in my life. But I also happened to be transitioning out of a personal relationship and, while I have acquaintances and people who like me, I lack strong personal friendships. The project would take a lot of time, energy, and attention to get started, so it's unlikely that I'd also have the time and energy to develop new relationships at the same time.
Thus when the workshop caused me to think of considering the relationship aspect of the original plan, it was pretty easy to play the movie forward and see that I was setting myself up for a bleak and lonely existence
