Originally Posted by hamix
Western society is looks-based, but I think that nobody needs dating/relationships to be contented in life. Secondly, find a passion, something you enjoy doing and can do well. This may get your mind off of feeling unattractive.
Lastly, I don't believe you're truly confident, since if so you wouldn't care a jot what these people say and think. You perhaps need to work on filtering out what people say, and perhaps not seek validation from others as much. True confidence comes from ourselves, ultimately.
C'mon Hamix, I don't think you should stereotype western society like that! When you think about it, which society in the world is not looks-centric? You are totally right that we should not be dependent on dating/relationship to find contentment in life but having companionship is also very important. I feel like when you are trying to accept the way you look and you try to tell yourself that you don't need to have relations, then you will go more into seclusion. I would prefer to think that I am responsible for my own happiness and at the same time that my quality of life will be enhanced with meaningful relations in my life.