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So, how do we fix this? Well, if you believe all of the relationship books written by women for men, the answer is to share your feelings and be sensitive... Tell me, women... How many of you are actually attracted to a 'sensitive' man? Sure, it's nice at first... but then he seems too clingy... and he's just not 'rugged' enough for you anymore, right? Also, aren't you tired of having to listen to all of your girlfriends' problems, so why should you have to listen to your man's problems?
Here's the answer to all of this, short and sweet...
Keep being a man.
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Great discussion here,
Adam, how about if I add another sort of perspective from the female side of the world? ALL women are not like you describe here. I know that I'm not. I'm happy to listen to my man and I'd rather he feel free (not forced
) to talk about whatever's on his mind. And, yes I like it when I can talk to him.
So I think it's important to find out just what sort of a person I'm with. The common stereotypes, if you will, about men and women can certainly be a starting point, since they do come from a lot of people, no doubt about that. But in each case, I think that finding a good time to just ask "what are you like when it comes to this?", "what do you like/want/need when it comes to things like this?" can go a long way.
It may well be that it is fear of the unknown getting in the way, and finding out just where the best common ground that suits both people is the most important thing...
just my thoughts..
all best,
ati