Speaking from experience, I think you need to forget about him. If I could tell you how to do that I would be a millionaire, I know. When I say that, I don't mean 'he sucks, forget him' but rather, focus solely on yourself. You are the only one you can change, the only one you can help or direct.
It sounds like he may just be having some fun not being in a committed relationship right now. Maybe he will take from it that he indeed does want to be with you with renewed committment. But he may find this life suits him better. Until you can accept either outcome, your actions and thoughts will sabotage any intentions you have because you are so invested in having things turn out a certain way.
If I were you I would take the time while he's away to turn back to yourself. Intend some things for you that don't involve him. Think about what kind of person you would like to be. Don't spend so much time dwelling on what he's doing or who he's with. That's just torture...I've been there too.
I wasn't able to stick to this myself, but I would suggest a clean break of no contact for a while. After being in a relationship for so long the lines are blurred as to what's acceptable and what things mean (physical affection, time with family).
Well, I don't know if that helped, but I am sending you lots of love and I hope all the best for you.
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