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MM19 · 08-08-2007, 07:46 PM

Hello all! I am so grateful for this site and for all of you who read and respond to these threads. It really is a gift, and nice to know I have so many new friends, even if we should never "meet."

Regardless, I am struggling a bit right now with a relationship. My ex and I were together for 2 1/2 years. We broke up in May, but have maintained contact. At the end of the relationship, he said "if [he] thought this was forever [he was] not sure he could do this." I am in my 30s, and read to settle down. He is a mere 27, and seems to be in the death rattle stage of acceptance about marriage.

Since our breakup, he has "dated" several women casually. This has been hard for me, but I realize I really did manifest it. I spent months fearing he would end it and date other women, and was constantly jealous, even when it was inappropriate. I have been manifesting a change in myself and my approach, but it has been a tough go. I am trying very hard to manifest a stabilizing and return to our relationship.

I know, at first glance, this must all seem silly, and perhaps others reading this might think he is not good for me, but there is/was a lot of good. We have remained very helpful with one another since the break (and I still speak with his mother nearly every day; plus, he took me to see his grandmother (who I love) on the 29th and then told me how she would love it if we were ever to get married); we adore one another's families; we have similar morals, values, and goals (except for his recent "freak out" about getting married); we are in related fields, yet different fields, so there is much to discuss; we have lovely conversations, etc., and both have said at points, that we think we are a match/the one. In fact, he still won't say that he knows it will never work out, but this is all getting ugly for me.

I was startled yesterday by a call I had received from him. Mainly I was rattled because we had spent so much time together the last 2 weeks that I thought there was a sort of "moving toward" each other rather than a move toward other women. My intention manifestation has not at all incorporated other women, so I was a bit shocked by what he had said. In the last two weeks, he would often try to cuddle with me, note how compatible we were, etc., so I thought things were starting to manifest - a beta reflection of sorts.

However, yesterday, he called to tell me that he was going to Boston today for 5 days. He wanted to tell me bc/ he did not want me to stop by, call, etc. and then be shocked when he did not respond or when he answered only to tell me he was in Boston. Apparently, he is going on a "first date" with a woman who is flying him there. They are going to Martha's Vineyard together, and he has said it is "not a relationship. I am not looking for a relationship." He seemed upset that I was upset by him telling me this, and said he had hoped it would be helpful not harmful. In spite of his intentions, it sort of threw me off, and now, I am struggling to maintain my intention and manifest a different result. Instead, flashes of him there keep running through my head, and it is throwing me off. Can any of you help? I am really trying. Have watched "The Secret" twice already today, but the strength is just not as great as it was. I have been working on manifesting this intention since July 15th, but this latest "swirl" has me really rocked. Thank you all. I know this was a bit long!

08-08-2007, 07:46 PM	#1 (permalink)
MM19 Member Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: Iowa Posts: 42	Cloud over my intention manifestation Hello all! I am so grateful for this site and for all of you who read and respond to these threads. It really is a gift, and nice to know I have so many new friends, even if we should never "meet." Regardless, I am struggling a bit right now with a relationship. My ex and I were together for 2 1/2 years. We broke up in May, but have maintained contact. At the end of the relationship, he said "if [he] thought this was forever [he was] not sure he could do this." I am in my 30s, and read to settle down. He is a mere 27, and seems to be in the death rattle stage of acceptance about marriage. Since our breakup, he has "dated" several women casually. This has been hard for me, but I realize I really did manifest it. I spent months fearing he would end it and date other women, and was constantly jealous, even when it was inappropriate. I have been manifesting a change in myself and my approach, but it has been a tough go. I am trying very hard to manifest a stabilizing and return to our relationship. I know, at first glance, this must all seem silly, and perhaps others reading this might think he is not good for me, but there is/was a lot of good. We have remained very helpful with one another since the break (and I still speak with his mother nearly every day; plus, he took me to see his grandmother (who I love) on the 29th and then told me how she would love it if we were ever to get married); we adore one another's families; we have similar morals, values, and goals (except for his recent "freak out" about getting married); we are in related fields, yet different fields, so there is much to discuss; we have lovely conversations, etc., and both have said at points, that we think we are a match/the one. In fact, he still won't say that he knows it will never work out, but this is all getting ugly for me. I was startled yesterday by a call I had received from him. Mainly I was rattled because we had spent so much time together the last 2 weeks that I thought there was a sort of "moving toward" each other rather than a move toward other women. My intention manifestation has not at all incorporated other women, so I was a bit shocked by what he had said. In the last two weeks, he would often try to cuddle with me, note how compatible we were, etc., so I thought things were starting to manifest - a beta reflection of sorts. However, yesterday, he called to tell me that he was going to Boston today for 5 days. He wanted to tell me bc/ he did not want me to stop by, call, etc. and then be shocked when he did not respond or when he answered only to tell me he was in Boston. Apparently, he is going on a "first date" with a woman who is flying him there. They are going to Martha's Vineyard together, and he has said it is "not a relationship. I am not looking for a relationship." He seemed upset that I was upset by him telling me this, and said he had hoped it would be helpful not harmful. In spite of his intentions, it sort of threw me off, and now, I am struggling to maintain my intention and manifest a different result. Instead, flashes of him there keep running through my head, and it is throwing me off. Can any of you help? I am really trying. Have watched "The Secret" twice already today, but the strength is just not as great as it was. I have been working on manifesting this intention since July 15th, but this latest "swirl" has me really rocked. Thank you all. I know this was a bit long!