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alexinspire · 08-07-2007, 10:01 AM

I am shocked!

I never find someone so similar to me. No kidding. The only difference is I am not attracting lots of girls (only few try to get my phone number). I am 21.

I've been through that: Push away all my friends because thinking I'm really a big loser, not trying to talk much with girls, hopefully no one call me out, and I really hate social life IN THE PAST ONE YEAR!

So, here's what I am doing now in my life. I meet many people everyday and have created lots of partnership in business, exercise, talking and health. I can be with people without feeling tense or like a loser.

It's because there was a moment when I was very young. I notice classmates beat me up because I'm the tallest in class. Relatives don't play with me because I'm too young to play with them. So, I made a judgment on myself:

No one likes me. I'm a lonely guy!

Is it true? No it's not! It's just I'm the tallest and I'm too young. But I was too small to think like an adult. So I always think this is the truth. When I start to grown up, I notice I don't like social life (because I think no one will likes me when they know long enough about me.)

I try to hide away from group activities because I don't want them to tell me suddenly that they don't like me and trigger my past.

So... for Artman. Just consider this. You might have the same issue but different cases. Have a look why you always feel you are a loser! Did someone told you that when you are young? If it's true, pretend he is in front of you and tell him "Thank you for your opinion. I know it's not true and I'm not going to let your words to ruin my whole life."

I think it will work! I feel alone at least 10 times per day. So what? Alone doesn't equal to loser. I feel alone but I have friends who trust and care about me. I feel alone but I enjoy my life. Cheers!

08-07-2007, 10:01 AM	#16 (permalink)
alexinspire Senior Member Join Date: Aug 2007 Posts: 103	I am shocked! I never find someone so similar to me. No kidding. The only difference is I am not attracting lots of girls (only few try to get my phone number). I am 21. I've been through that: Push away all my friends because thinking I'm really a big loser, not trying to talk much with girls, hopefully no one call me out, and I really hate social life IN THE PAST ONE YEAR! So, here's what I am doing now in my life. I meet many people everyday and have created lots of partnership in business, exercise, talking and health. I can be with people without feeling tense or like a loser. It's because there was a moment when I was very young. I notice classmates beat me up because I'm the tallest in class. Relatives don't play with me because I'm too young to play with them. So, I made a judgment on myself: No one likes me. I'm a lonely guy! Is it true? No it's not! It's just I'm the tallest and I'm too young. But I was too small to think like an adult. So I always think this is the truth. When I start to grown up, I notice I don't like social life (because I think no one will likes me when they know long enough about me.) I try to hide away from group activities because I don't want them to tell me suddenly that they don't like me and trigger my past. So... for Artman. Just consider this. You might have the same issue but different cases. Have a look why you always feel you are a loser! Did someone told you that when you are young? If it's true, pretend he is in front of you and tell him "Thank you for your opinion. I know it's not true and I'm not going to let your words to ruin my whole life." I think it will work! I feel alone at least 10 times per day. So what? Alone doesn't equal to loser. I feel alone but I have friends who trust and care about me. I feel alone but I enjoy my life. Cheers!