Personally, I enjoy being able to really talk to someone on a date. I was endlessly fascinated when my current interest discussed drum theory. Smart guys? SEXY. Artistic guys? WAY SEXY. Kindness? I don't think I can even say how hot that is. When a guy opens a door without making a production, or compliments me in a very specific way (not, "Oh, you're beautiful," but more like, "Wow, I've never seen eyes that shade of blue green," or, "You're one of the coolest, smartest chicks I know.")
Back on track: Coffee is a great way to get to know someone. Sure, it's commercial, but Starbucks in the evening is usually docile and quiet and pretty. Going to a litle pastry shop has the same effect. There's less expectation and pressure than with a meal, and somehow more indulgent and warm. A movie? Not so great for getting to know someone.
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