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Originally Posted by Cado

I have. It was okay.

lol.

Originally Posted by GeorgePH

What you want to do is learn how to escalate properly.

Yeah, I think I understand "escalating" physically, and it comes way more natch than the talky part.

"Come on twice as hard as you think you should and scale back from there."

I'm starting to do this but have to remind myself, because from younger days my habit was to scale back from the start, some of that persists.

Originally Posted by Brutha

Ambivalence wasn't what I was looking for. Do you have one where you felt desire or something similar?

There's always desire, but in the encounters you're asking about, my interest and confidence came later since it was the girl who was seeking me out initially. In other words, not someone I initially noticed.

Originally Posted by vytas80

Here is a good rant about sexual escalation. Written by a woman.

Thanks for the link. Entertaining and looks like she's writing about a later stage, once there's already sex happening. I guess you're saying the point the writer makes applies to this, too.