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Originally Posted by madgeylou  i can tell myself "there are men who make good partners out there" till i'm blue in the face, but part of me doesnt believe it -- i havent seen it. how can i move towards believing it? |
Hey Madge...that part of you that doesn't believe it may be serving a purpose: maybe keeping you safe from the scariness of intimacy (or some other purpose that only you know.) It's a younger, more vulnerable part of you holding on to the only security she knows.
In whatever way works for you, maybe you could experiment with embracing the root feelings of that belief, appreciating how it's served you...and then eventually, when you're ready, gently find other beliefs and actions that can help keep you safe but in a way that allows these great guys into your life.
This
book may help you in doing this, and EFT also works with transforming beliefs in a relaxed way.