Originally Posted by Brutha
Communicating sexual intent is about risking rejection.
If you focus on the fear of rejection you probably have a vibe that isn't sexy.
This is so true. I think you (Rezzy) are hiding behind the "acceptable" thing because you're worried about rejection.
A friend and I accidentally went into a gay bar once, and, yeah, the interactions made us uncomfortable. But only because their intentions were obvious, and we aren't interested in dudes.
It's acceptable to make someone 'uncomfortable' in the sense that they know your intentions and aren't interested. If these guys had a 'normal', or by your definition 'acceptable' interaction with us, we wouldn't have been uncomfortable, but also they wouldn't have known that they didn't have a chance, and they'd waste their time.
Think about it this way, if a gay dude talked to you the way you talk to girls, would you be like "This dude's hitting on me!" or would you be like "Oh, a friendly guy"?
So there's your solution - make straight guys uncomfortable! (well not really, but you get what I mean).