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healthymind · 08-04-2007, 04:37 PM

I agree that focus is the key here. 100 goals are just too many you're diffusing your energy and not allowing the law of attraction to snowball the experience for you. I started self-help in much the same way as you by listening to conventional motivation speakers like Brian Tracey and the like. My problem was always motivation....or so I thought. I've since discovered that my real problem was thinking I had to make it happen all by myself. Everything is hard when you're not leveraging the one thing designed to make it easy for you...The Law Of Attraction (LOA).

So here's how it works. You give yourself an ideal, lets take your health goal as one. And you've dutifully written down everything you have to do to make that a reality. Now if your "doing" is all about physical action alone then this is doing it the hard way. To make it really easy you need to change your beliefs about health as well.

At the moment lets say your current beliefs tell you that unless you work out 5 days a week you can't reach your goal. No big problem there as long as you do work out 5 days a week. But if you only do 4 days or none at all you get angst, which then calls in more angst and negativity through the LOA and before you know it you're depressed about your body and eating comfort food in front of the TV. So what you do is this.

You take the action which gives you relief (your workouts) and at the same time you also give yourself new and better thoughts about your body. What happens is that you work out and feel good, LOA brings more good feelings into your life. You tell yourself that your body is an intelligent system that can maintain optimal health no matter what, you feel good. LOA brings in more good feelings and snowballs the effect. The better you feel the easier it is for your body to drop excess weight. You are doing what you believe you must AND you are replacing the airtime normally given to negative thinking with positive thinking. It's a doublehit of goodness and you only had to workout once to get it!

Now you've only got to do this 21 days in a row and you've established a new habit and knocked a negative one out of the water at the same time. LOA makes it easier because you want to do more of whatever you are thinking about. In the beginning you are doing and thinking a new habit in your life. After the first month you're on autopilot.

Why not just work on one habit for the first 21 days. Do one thing intensely. It's only a month until one of your goals is a fait accompli. Then work on the next.

08-04-2007, 04:37 PM	#8 (permalink)
healthymind Member Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Australia Posts: 36	I agree that focus is the key here. 100 goals are just too many you're diffusing your energy and not allowing the law of attraction to snowball the experience for you. I started self-help in much the same way as you by listening to conventional motivation speakers like Brian Tracey and the like. My problem was always motivation....or so I thought. I've since discovered that my real problem was thinking I had to make it happen all by myself. Everything is hard when you're not leveraging the one thing designed to make it easy for you...The Law Of Attraction (LOA). So here's how it works. You give yourself an ideal, lets take your health goal as one. And you've dutifully written down everything you have to do to make that a reality. Now if your "doing" is all about physical action alone then this is doing it the hard way. To make it really easy you need to change your beliefs about health as well. At the moment lets say your current beliefs tell you that unless you work out 5 days a week you can't reach your goal. No big problem there as long as you do work out 5 days a week. But if you only do 4 days or none at all you get angst, which then calls in more angst and negativity through the LOA and before you know it you're depressed about your body and eating comfort food in front of the TV. So what you do is this. You take the action which gives you relief (your workouts) and at the same time you also give yourself new and better thoughts about your body. What happens is that you work out and feel good, LOA brings more good feelings into your life. You tell yourself that your body is an intelligent system that can maintain optimal health no matter what, you feel good. LOA brings in more good feelings and snowballs the effect. The better you feel the easier it is for your body to drop excess weight. You are doing what you believe you must AND you are replacing the airtime normally given to negative thinking with positive thinking. It's a doublehit of goodness and you only had to workout once to get it! Now you've only got to do this 21 days in a row and you've established a new habit and knocked a negative one out of the water at the same time. LOA makes it easier because you want to do more of whatever you are thinking about. In the beginning you are doing and thinking a new habit in your life. After the first month you're on autopilot. Why not just work on one habit for the first 21 days. Do one thing intensely. It's only a month until one of your goals is a fait accompli. Then work on the next.