116. Appeasing bullies doesn't work
117. Talk to everybody and be interested in everything
118. Look at those you admire in the field you’d like to excel in, and find our which information sources they use. This is often one of the hidden secrets of the successful. Follow their media consumption habits, and aim to become an expert in that field by pursuing the same sources.
119. If you're in business, or considering going into business, don't think of yourself as being in any particular industry first and foremost. Instead, see yourself as being in the template business - producing a more successful blueprint for a product or service that can easily be reproduced to fill a demand at a profit.
120. Don't waste your life tied up in petty squabbles.
121. You can tell a lot about someone from how they treat a waiter.
122. Get over your fear of failure
123. Be aware of the enormous possibilities available to you
124. Accumulate lots of small victories
125. In so many parts of life, a hundred little misses are bargain price to pay for one big hit.
126. Twisting yourself up with poisonous hatred is not a good way to live. The reason you should practice forgiveness is because the alternative is so horrible.
127. Eight negotiation tips:
A. Be willing to negotiate in the the first place
B. Don't get emotionally involved
C. If someone starts trying to box you in by adding rules to the deal, ask them to provide proof that such rules really exist.
D. Never be the first person to name a figure
E. Ask for more than you expect to get
F. Let them believe the final decision doesn't rest with you
G. Don't act too interested. Just giving the impression that you're willing to walk away can do wonders for getting a better deal. Always play the reluctant buyer or seller.
H. Don't leave the other person feeling as if they've been cheated
128. Most smart people have a hidden weakness and it’s this – they’re absolute suckers for anything that sounds clever. As soon as you start hitting people with technical terms, fancy graphs, famous names and the like, you’ll immediately increase your credibility. If they’re smart, they’re even more likely to find themselves nodding in agreement. Many intelligent people would rather cut off a finger than admit they don’t know what you’re talking about.
129. Make peace with the fact that there are a great many things you'll never know, and you'll never have real certainty about anything. Be very cautious before accepting anything as true and correct beyond any doubt, and be ready to question your assumptions. Realizing that nothing is certain is a big first step towards joining the ranks of the wise.
130. Don't reward bad behavior in yourself and others.
131. Some people just aren't worth bothering with.
132. Find something to live for.
133. Three good tricks for catching liars:
A. Look for what motivates the person. Concentrate on what people are doing, not what they are saying.
B. If someone refuses to be specific, they're probably lying.
C. Most liars have a tendency to overact.
134. Six steps for learning difficult subjects quickly:
A. Bombard yourself with information
B. Identify the key concepts and make them yours
C. Only memorize what absolutely has to be memorized
D. Get some feedback on your understanding
E. Bombard yourself with some more information, but from a different source
F. Get some real-world feedback
135. How to get a job paying more than $100,000 a year
A. Choose the right profession
B. Get an education and qualifications in your chosen profession
C. Choose the right geographic location
D. Polish up your resume
E. Improve your job interviewing techniques
F. Get an entry-level position in your new profession
G. Change jobs and employer
H. Change jobs and employer again, and again
136. Everybody loves a modest hero. The answer is to impress people with what you do rather than what you say. If you have admirable skills and achievements, people will notice these without your having to point them out. In fact, if you follow the path of being a quiet achiever your peers will likely admire you more. Everybody loves a modest hero.
137. Seven tips for powering up your communication skills:
A. Keep it simple and clear
B. Realize the person you're communicating with doesn't necessarily know what you know
C. Reduce noise and obstacles to getting your message across
D. Don't use big words or jargon
E. Speak to each member of the audience as an individual
F. Use as few words as possible
G. Respect your audience
138. The big advantage of treating your future self well, is that the benefits are compounding. If you save some money, then the person you are in the future saves the interest from that money plus a bit more, you'll be well on your way to becoming rich. Be charitable to your future self and treat them as a person you love and want to be happy. The benefits you receive from this attitude will likely be huge.
139. Take lots of small losses for some big wins.
140. Discover ways to make people laugh.
141. Learn how to solve other people's problems.
142. Become a student of human behavior.
143. Seven ways to get richer
A. Change jobs
B. Change careers
C. Find sources of income outside your job
D. Build yourself a money-making system
E. Start following a savings plan
F. Pay off your debts
G. Improve your financial literacy
144. Never be completely satisfied with your answers
145. Having a lot of cool stuff is great, but it's not really necessary to be happy. As long as you've got good relationships, a bit of money in your pocket for entertainment, a roof over your head, and enough to eat, you can live perfectly happily without all that extra "stuff" we've been convinced is so necessary. Keep your love of material things in perspective. And take the hidden costs into account before you start accumulating too much.
146. Six tips for getting organized:
A. Do it in the first place
B. Be organized about being organized
C. Keep the goal in mind
D. Spend most of your effort on the most important task
E. Keep it simple
F. Get started early
147. Don't waste your time doing only things that make you miserable simply in order to appear virtuous.
148. Rather than deciding to be more spiteful to those around you, why not try being more pleasant for a change? Make a real effort to be friendly and polite to people even if they don't immediately return the compliment. If you practice doing this sincerely, you will surprised at how many good things will come your way. Most people like those who are friendly and pleasant to them. They'll often go out of their way to help you. And they'll almost certainly want you around.
149. The secret of wealth is working easier, not harder.
150. Don't let other manipulate you by making you feel uncomfortable.
151. Don't get sucked in by the "it's all an emergency" mindset.
152. What you should put a bit of thought into are your own routines. What actions do you habitually undertake that are positive? Which do you routinely do that are negative? Which daily habits, if added to your routine, would improve your life? Which could you do without? It is, in many ways, the habits and routines we choose that define where our lives are going.
153. Life is serious, but it's also ridiculous.
154. If you have a problem, look in the mirror first for its source.
155. Who your friends are will have a big influence on who you are.
156. Resist the urge to criticize.
157. Rejoice in the variety of humanity
158. Turn your hopes and dreams into something concrete
159. Achievement brings the greatest satisfaction
160. Why people are sometimes horrible to one another:
A. The competition for resources
B. The thirst for power
C. Trying to pass pain onto others
161. Become immune to insult. Look at those who succeed in getting their way in life, and you'll notice that ignoring insults is exactly how such people react. Every rich, famous and powerful person on the planet has derogatory comments made about them daily. The smart ones simply ignore them and get on with what they were trying to achieve. It's often life's losers that allow petty offenses to consume them. They devote so much time and energy dealing emotionally with insults that they do things that are against their best interests.
162. Ignore the cynics, it's fine to pursue happiness.
163. Learn how to say no
164. One of the big differences that I've noticed between those who get what they want and those who don't comes down to one simple behavior - whether they're willing to ask for it. Having the courage to ask for what you want can help decide whether you'll have a successful life or not.
165. When everything's horrible, it may be time for a drastic change.
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