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Cado · 08-23-2011, 02:42 AM

Nevermind whether or not it's possible to change one's orientation, it's like trying to reach the other side of a mountain by traversing the globe in the opposite direction. If she could switch to straight it is very likely her belief would shift to, "all of my friends are finding these awesome men, why can't I?" It's the "why isn't it happening for me" which is the core of it, not her orientation.

Throwing a Herculean task onto your plate never moves you forward when it's entirely arbitrary and goes against your natural inclinations, all it does is keep you busy enough to satisfy your ego need to prove you are a "good" person. (You can sub out good with disciplined, diligent, persistent, whatever, the point is that it's positive self-perception, and when it's used like that it masks self-loathing.)

Let's keep ourselves on the topic at hand, hm?

08-23-2011, 02:42 AM	#18 (permalink)
Cado Banned Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: The Flames Which Temper Steel Posts: 2,017	Nevermind whether or not it's possible to change one's orientation, it's like trying to reach the other side of a mountain by traversing the globe in the opposite direction. If she could switch to straight it is very likely her belief would shift to, "all of my friends are finding these awesome men, why can't I?" It's the "why isn't it happening for me" which is the core of it, not her orientation. Throwing a Herculean task onto your plate never moves you forward when it's entirely arbitrary and goes against your natural inclinations, all it does is keep you busy enough to satisfy your ego need to prove you are a "good" person. (You can sub out good with disciplined, diligent, persistent, whatever, the point is that it's positive self-perception, and when it's used like that it masks self-loathing.) Let's keep ourselves on the topic at hand, hm? Last edited by Cado; 08-23-2011 at 02:45 AM.