Originally Posted by bluestar
Well for some mainly straight people, being bi, or even bi-curious (ie being open to a gay experience, if not relationship) is quite easy. But for many straight people trying to "make themselves" gay just ain't gonna work, -any more than trying to make blue eyes turn brown by sheer force of will.
You're saying some people have this ability, and others do not? That's nonsense. Sexual preference is not a fixed physical attribute. It is the way a person's brain is wired. The brain has plasticity. It can be molded. But first, you have to flip the permission switch. You have to give yourself permission to be sexually attracted to X. This is why it's hard for a lot of straight people, as well as gay people. They think it would be wrong to do so. Gay people, to be specific, think if they give themselves permission to be straight they are "rejecting" their previous gayness, judging themselves, and giving in to the demands/viewpoint of others.
Same goes for "trying to make yourself straight" |
It wouldn't work.
It does once the person stops self-judgement.