Wow, this sounds familiar. Check out this link, especially the
REASON #5: THEY SEEK ONLY "INFORMATIONAL SOLUTIONS" section.
Why Intelligent Men Fail - Pick Up and Seduction Database
I'm sure these fallacies aren't exclusively related to being successful with women; they're linked to all areas in our life. IMO, it all comes down to fear. Fear is what prevents us from taking action -- fear that we might actually succeed. I still can't figure out why I'm afraid of being successful in some areas of my life...but it is definitely there.
Hope that helps
Tom