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Originally Posted by Lola  I learned, after 40 some years of constantly auditing and altering my behavior to gain the unconditional love and acceptance I was seeking from everyone else, that what I was really seeking was for me to approve of me. |
Gold. I learned that I was conditioned to believe many irrational and ridiculous things and projected my thoughts to other people. All this time, I was actually trying to convince myself through others. Unfortunately, it isn't a realization that changes your life overnight. You've been conditioned for years, so dropping them would require time.