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Originally Posted by Tam9  An example would be if you were physically abused and permanent scars were left on your being. As much as you'd like to put the memory of it in the past, the physical reminder would exist in the present. Regardless of the presence/absence of psychological pain or forgiveness etc., the physical pain would exist in the past, present and future. |
Tam, I just wanted to respond even though I think everyone else has pretty much said what I would say.
I think the physical pain being ongoing is different from emotional pain. If I were horribly abused in childhood to the point where I have lasting symptoms of ongoing physical pain, I would still be in pain and it may remind me of what happened in the past. However, I would not have to dwell on the emotional ramifications of that, merely try to manage the pain now. I am not sure anyone is talking about physical pain not existing simply because it was caused in the past. I think the main point is that emotional pain/continued grief over the past is unnecessary and hinders the moment we are living in as we speak.
@ Ree - Thank you for that very vivid reminder. I too had a huge filing cabinet (probably more like a whole room full of filing cabinets). I am in the process of throwing all that crap out into the dump where it belongs!