And now, my take on sexual energy, at least from the masculine perspective.
There is a polarity between masculine and feminine energy. Like Yin and Yang. They are both opposite and complementary. They are also naturally attracted to one another. Masculine men are attracted to feminine women and vice versa. Also, feminine men are attracted to masculine women and vice versa.
For example, the well put together business women (masculine) is more attracted to the starry eyed sensitive artist guy (feminine) than her male boss(masculine). In a more conventional (and general) sense, women in general are more attracted to older men who have their life in order(masculine traits), and those men are more attracted to younger, full women in the flow of feminine energy.
This masculine feminine polarity can be extended to the masculine relationship with the world in general. Pure Consciousness being the masculine, everything else being the feminine. Masculine emptiness, feminine fullness. Feminine women are just extremely concentrated forms of feminine energy, so in actuality there is little difference between your sexual tension with your woman, and your passion for the world. As Napoleon Hill mentioned, successful people are usually highly sexed as well.
Imagine a very successful, self directed man in charge of his life. The kind of guy that
knows what he wants and goes after it, without hesitation or regret. He stands tall, is immediately respected, and commands the world with his conscious presence. You know, that guy every feminine girl wants and who other guys wish they could be. There is a reason women find that kind of guy sexy.
The natural masculine desire is the release of tension. All our lives are dedicated to creating and releasing this tension. We create hurdles and challenges to overcome. We need more money, so we make a plan and stick to it until it comes to fruition. Then we think that we will be able to finally relax being financially secure, but of course there is something else to conquer after that. Tony Robbin's calls those "quality problems." With each greater task to accomplish or goal to conquer, a greater tension between the masculine and feminine must be withstood. Greater goals require greater passion, and a greater ability to handle that tension between the masculine and feminine as the stakes grow ever greater.
People both fear and desire that heightened sexual tension. Sure, you would love to be with a supermodel, but do you think you could handle her for even a day? Sure, you would love to be the CEO of a multi-million dollar company, but could you take that stress? On one hand you enjoy a greater quality of life, on the other you have to face that responsibility to maintain that tension and pressure and not give in to the vices of life.
Masturbation is a subtle way to distract yourself from living life the way you want to deep down. The orgasm of masturbation is usually quick and to the point. Build up that tension using whatever lame fantasy you choose. lube up and stroke the shaft until you can't take it anymore and the dam breaks, you squirt your load in some lame excuse of an orgasm and you are finally freed of tension. Congratulations, you've mollified yourself. You have undercut your ability to handle sexual tension, and you have further ingrained a habit of breaking tension prematurely.
Do you seriously imagine yourself in the future, successful, mutually sexually fulfilled by a wonderful woman, and still undertaking such a selfish and pointless ritual?
Masculine/feminine theory borrowed in mostly from
David Deida. Opinions my own.