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Originally Posted by Tam9  What if it's so painful, you have no choice? What if it eats away at your being? Do you really think it's that simple? Wouldn't it be great if you could just tuck things away and dismiss them as fantasy! |
Maybe you could give me an example of a time when you have no choice?
I am coming to believe that you always have a choice. And again I am not suggesting you tuck things away and dismiss them as fantasy (ETA: there's that word again...I think that's really why this is so hard). Merely that you don't keep beating yourself over the head with them every moment rather than living the life in front of you now.
When I tell myself that something shouldn't have happened to me and I allow myself to feel pain right now for it I am giving that past actual event power over my life. I would prefer to take from it whatever valuable lesson I can and leave everything else in the past where it belongs. All that pain and misery can stay with the event in the past where it has no power to affect me in the present.