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silicon toad2000 · 08-02-2007, 03:48 PM

I have had friends like that. If I ever help them I ensure that they invest as much of the talents as they can.
I follow the whole teach a man to fish approach. I try and show them how to do things for themselves.
I taught a friend to cook a few simple dishes. he was so happy with the skills, how well he picked it up and how simple it was. He started experimenting and had me over for a meal he cooked. It was a great night watching him shine.
Some people thrive on new skills and knowledge, others don't due to deeper issues.
You need to identify what is driving his condition and decide if you have the skills, energy and patience to spare to help with the root cause.
If you do I can honestly tell you there is very little more rewarding than watching someone turn their life around. But as Ilya said, there is a great risk that they can suck the life out of you and there is little more frustrating than being unable to help when you thought you could.

08-02-2007, 03:48 PM	#3 (permalink)
silicon toad2000 Senior Member Join Date: Apr 2007 Posts: 728	I have had friends like that. If I ever help them I ensure that they invest as much of the talents as they can. I follow the whole teach a man to fish approach. I try and show them how to do things for themselves. I taught a friend to cook a few simple dishes. he was so happy with the skills, how well he picked it up and how simple it was. He started experimenting and had me over for a meal he cooked. It was a great night watching him shine. Some people thrive on new skills and knowledge, others don't due to deeper issues. You need to identify what is driving his condition and decide if you have the skills, energy and patience to spare to help with the root cause. If you do I can honestly tell you there is very little more rewarding than watching someone turn their life around. But as Ilya said, there is a great risk that they can suck the life out of you and there is little more frustrating than being unable to help when you thought you could.