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Lauxa · 08-02-2007, 12:49 PM

I have a friend who is always broke, sick, and complaining. Additionally he is vindictive and holds grudges practically forever. As I started down the personal development path I have often felt that this person was an energy drain and that I should minimize my time spent with this person. This person has a very cyclical income and I have loaned him thousands of dollars to get him through the low spots... which he has always repaid. He has very few friends and is very needy of attention and praise.

I have hired him for several projects around my house, and a situation arose around the last project where we had a falling out and did not speak for a couple of months. Yesterday I stopped by his condo to return some things I had borrowed. As usual he was broke, sick, and complaining. Additionally the condo he is living in is about to transfer ownership and his professional license is being threatened.

This has been weighing heavily on me since I saw him yesterday. Is there anything I can do for this person? One thing I could do that he would appreciate is to bring him food, since he is a bachelor and hates to cook. Part of me wants to help, but I am also concerned about entangling my energies with this person.

How do you deal with people that you care about, people who are hurting, but who are not ready to make a spiritual shift?

08-02-2007, 12:49 PM	#1 (permalink)
Lauxa Family Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Posts: 2,545	A friend in need I have a friend who is always broke, sick, and complaining. Additionally he is vindictive and holds grudges practically forever. As I started down the personal development path I have often felt that this person was an energy drain and that I should minimize my time spent with this person. This person has a very cyclical income and I have loaned him thousands of dollars to get him through the low spots... which he has always repaid. He has very few friends and is very needy of attention and praise. I have hired him for several projects around my house, and a situation arose around the last project where we had a falling out and did not speak for a couple of months. Yesterday I stopped by his condo to return some things I had borrowed. As usual he was broke, sick, and complaining. Additionally the condo he is living in is about to transfer ownership and his professional license is being threatened. This has been weighing heavily on me since I saw him yesterday. Is there anything I can do for this person? One thing I could do that he would appreciate is to bring him food, since he is a bachelor and hates to cook. Part of me wants to help, but I am also concerned about entangling my energies with this person. How do you deal with people that you care about, people who are hurting, but who are not ready to make a spiritual shift?