Hi Budhabee, Ilya is right, the alpha brainwave cd will place you in a calm state as long as you are listening to it. Once you stop and you are back out in the world you are dealing with your thoughts, your habits and the world again.
If the hypnosis cd has only a very vague instruction about being calm it may not be enough help for you when you are a similar situation again.
I think one common misconception is that brainwave entrainment products will automatcially solve complex problems just by listening to the sounds themselves.
The key to success with them is what you do with your mind WHILE listening to brainwave cds. Instead of just listening to the sounds and waiting to fall into trance, it is the best time to use alpha state to "program" yourself for the way you want to behave.
That means you have to take CONTROL of your progress and thinking by setting your goal and programming yourself to get to that goal. It may involve writing a journal to stay in touch with your thoughts and progress.
For example while in alpha, you actually feel the anger from the arguement, then imagine yourself saying "STOP" to yourself and walking away or terminating the arguement. And you spend fair amount of time picturing this and do it again and again-practice- until you see results show up.
Don't worry Budhabee, there are many ways to accomplish this, from creating a trigger to remind yourself to "stop" and walk away (like snapping your fingers) to a technique where tapping certain places on your body which is said to relieve even the toughest emotional problems-some people swear by this technique.
But for now the idea would be to use the alpha state to program the behavior you want.
Good luck all right?
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