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cbreeze · 08-02-2007, 07:14 AM

My relationship started as confusing as yours, then we wed, then yes, it does NOT get better. He's not closed. He's a sociopath! After being begged (literally) to move in with J, his questionable behaviors had me walking on pins and needles and always fishing for approval or whatever he's thinking as he'd close up. Apphrensively I didn't leave my apt as I had doubts - after a beautiful sunday, he fixed a wonderful breakfast in bed, then later on out of the blue, told me he didn't think this is going to work out and said he'd take care of divorce. today was our first year anniversary. he made me believe he adored me, yet, i found out he was online too much, body language gave him away, his trips with the guys became more frequent, i knew he was seeing someone else and i loved him so much i put up with the humiliation till i found a journal of his and his conquests and that he used/abused/lied to as if they were trophies. He's sick and incredibly narcissistic and couldn't keep his lies straight, yet, didn't want to lose me = wanted to still see each other when i moved out - or so he said. i did move out after taking back all the gifts i gave him and throwing away the others. It won't get better. I'm glad i got out now, it caused losses of different kinds and getting over all this was a titanic feat, but today, upon filing for the divorce myself, so long! He's finally out of my system and how could he not be? I've been couped up crying and in shock for the last four days. I'm done. He's not worth it, and now I know what he is, he does too - others don't the conviving jerk. What ever goes around... I now know what I truly want in a relationship and learned it all begins within you and what you resonate/project. He will keep treating you the way he has if you let him - I did because of my love, but, he's a loser and all-ways will be. Good luck to you, I know what you're going through but there are a lot of dogs out there that are cute, cuddly, faithful and... won't bite nor have fleas on the side! You deserve the best. Go for it by letting him GO!

08-02-2007, 07:14 AM	#17 (permalink)
cbreeze Member Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: gaia Posts: 94	take heed dear Xuan My relationship started as confusing as yours, then we wed, then yes, it does NOT get better. He's not closed. He's a sociopath! After being begged (literally) to move in with J, his questionable behaviors had me walking on pins and needles and always fishing for approval or whatever he's thinking as he'd close up. Apphrensively I didn't leave my apt as I had doubts - after a beautiful sunday, he fixed a wonderful breakfast in bed, then later on out of the blue, told me he didn't think this is going to work out and said he'd take care of divorce. today was our first year anniversary. he made me believe he adored me, yet, i found out he was online too much, body language gave him away, his trips with the guys became more frequent, i knew he was seeing someone else and i loved him so much i put up with the humiliation till i found a journal of his and his conquests and that he used/abused/lied to as if they were trophies. He's sick and incredibly narcissistic and couldn't keep his lies straight, yet, didn't want to lose me = wanted to still see each other when i moved out - or so he said. i did move out after taking back all the gifts i gave him and throwing away the others. It won't get better. I'm glad i got out now, it caused losses of different kinds and getting over all this was a titanic feat, but today, upon filing for the divorce myself, so long! He's finally out of my system and how could he not be? I've been couped up crying and in shock for the last four days. I'm done. He's not worth it, and now I know what he is, he does too - others don't the conviving jerk. What ever goes around... I now know what I truly want in a relationship and learned it all begins within you and what you resonate/project. He will keep treating you the way he has if you let him - I did because of my love, but, he's a loser and all-ways will be. Good luck to you, I know what you're going through but there are a lot of dogs out there that are cute, cuddly, faithful and... won't bite nor have fleas on the side! You deserve the best. Go for it by letting him GO!